The Breakup Workbook: A Common Sense Guide To Getting Over Your Ex

The Breakup Workbook 1 Introduction Getting Dumped Sucks. There Isn’t Any Other Way To Put It. Yesterday, You Were So Happy You Could Practically Skip To Work. Today, You Don’t Even Know How To Put One Foot In Front Of The Other. You Thought That You Were With A Man That Could Be The One, The Only, The Answer To Your Prayers. Now You Are Only Left With Questions. How Could This Happen To You? How Are You Going To Get Through It? How Will You Ever Move On From The Man You Loved?
at Brokenheartedgirl.com, We Know How You Feel, And That’s Why We Designed This Workbook – To Help You Get Over Him And Get On With Your Life. The Exercises In The Book Are Comprised Of Those We Learned In Therapy And Some We Inherently Just “do” In Order To Remove A Man’s Presence From Our Lives. Each Of These Exercises Will Benefit You And Help You Become One Step Closer To Healing Your Heart And Moving On.
we Wrote This Book Because We Noticed There Are A Lot Of Books Out There That Tell You How To Get A New Man, That You Can’t Call The Old Man, And Tell You To Just “get Over It!” But, There’s Not A Book With A Common-sense Look At Breakups And How They Apply To Those Of Us Who Need To Heal Before Moving On. This Book Will Show You, Without A Lot Of Psycho-babble, How To Let Go And Heal Before You Let A New Man Into Your Life.
through Personal Experience, We Know That The Hardest Part Of A Breakup Is Letting Go And Retaining A Shred Of Dignity While Doing It. We Want To Show You How To Let Go. We Want To Show You That You Can Do It, Even If You’ve Failed Before.
these Days, With Email, Text Messaging, And A Million Other Ways To Communicate, It Will Be Even Harder To Let Go Of Him; Luckily This Is Not Your Parents’ Breakup Workbook.
you Will Sit At Home And Wait For Him To Call The House. Every Time You Get Home, You’ll Check Caller Id To See If He Dialed And Hung Up. You’ll Check Your Cell Phone To See If You’ve Missed Any Calls. You’ll Even Turn It Off Sometimes (a Watched Pot Never Boils), Then Turn It Back On 10 Minutes Later & Anxiously Await The Tone That Tells You That There’s A Message Waiting; And That’s Just Night One.
the Next Day You’ll Go To Work; Hoping Its Him When You Pick Up The Phone; Waiting To See If He Logs On To Im; Waiting To See If He Emails You; Hoping He Didn’t Already Change His Settings To Stealth Or Delete You From His Buddy List. You’re Going To Have To Work Twice As Hard To Get Through The Day Without Breaking Down And Contacting Him. Then, When You Get Home, You’ll Be Checking The Caller Id To See If He Called Your Home And Hung Up While You Were At Work. Then, You’ll Spend The Rest Of The Evening Waiting For The Phone, The Cell Phone, The Im, The Email, Or The Doorbell To Alert You To His Presence. You’ll Wonder, Between Tears & Sobs, Will This Ever End?
it Will End, But Like Everything In Life, It’s A Process. You’ve Heard This Before, So We’ll Spare You The Lecture, But Remember That When You Go Through A Breakup, It’s Similar To Having Someone You Love Die. As Such, It’s Important To Go Through The Grieving Process. You’re Going To Experience A Battery Of Emotions; Remorse, Denial, Anger, Depression, Hysteria, And At Times, You May Even Believe That You’re Going Crazy. Unbelievably, All Of These Emotions Are Actually Going To Assist You In Your Healing Process. For Example: You’ll Go From Staring Into Space, To Bursting Into Tears, To Screaming At The Top Of Your Lungs, To Throwing Things Across The Room. You May Feel Idiotic And Childish When You Realize You Took A Newspaper And Tore It To Shreds On Your New White Rug, While Calling Him Every Rotten Name You Can Muster - But Even This Will Help You Get Through The Pain.
don’t Push These Fits Of Rage Or Crying Away; Denying Yourself The Chance To Heal – Embrace These Feelings In Hopes That You Will Get Over This Period Even More Quickly. You Need To Do The Proper Amount Of Screaming, Crying, And Yelling For You. You’ll Know When The Proper Amount Has Been Done, Because You’ll Start To Feel Better.
it Could Take Weeks, Even Months, But You Will Begin To Feel Better.
the Hope Is That The Activities In This Book Will Keep You Occupied While You Go Through Every Emotion. This Could Stop You From Making Phone Calls To Your Ex At All Hours, Stalking Him, Or Really Doing Something Harmful To Yourself. As Stated Earlier, You May Believe That You Are Going To Extremes At Times, But We Hope This Book Proves To Be A Healthy Outlet For Your Grief. Use This Workbook As A Tool To Mend Your Heart. Do All Exercises Completely – Even Overdo Them. Just Make Sure That You Take The Time To Do Them Completely Or Else We Can’t Help You.
reading The Book Won’t Help. “doing” The Book Will.
eventually, Time Will Do Its Job, And You Will Get Over Him. Until Then, Do The Work Necessary To Be Able To Find Yourself, So That When You Heal, You Can Take Everything That’s Wonderful Aboutyou And Put It Into A New Relationship.
don’t Forget That You Can Log Into The “healing Room” Forum On Our Website www.brokenheartedgirl.com And Speak With Some Other Women About Your Problems. You’ll Find It’s Easier To Go Through This With Others Who Are In Your Situation, They Can Relate In Ways That Your Happy Friends Cannot.
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you’re Hurting. You’ve Just Been Told That You Have To Give Up Love “cold Turkey.” Unfortunately, Love Is Like An Addictive Drug. When You Don’t Have It, You Crave It. You Feel You Need It For Survival. You Don’t Know How You Can Live Without It. How Can You Live Without Him?
while You Go Through This Withdrawal Period, Subconsciously You’ll Magnify His Good Qualities. In Your Head, You’ll Build Him Up So Much That You’ll Honestly Believe That You’ll Never Find Another Lover Quite As Good As He Was. You’ll Never Meet Someone Who Makes You Laugh As Hard As He Did. You’ll Never Find Someone As Charming As He Was. To You, He Is A Man On A Pedestal. And You Will Prepare To Worship Him In The Days Ahead. We’re Going To Give You Exercises In Which You Can Praise Him. Then We’ll Show You Why & How You Can Do Better Than Your Ex. You May Not Fully Comprehend That Statement Now, But We Promise, You’ll Understand In Time. Really, How Great Can He Possibly Be If He Doesn’t Realize How Great You Are? To Heal, You’re Going To Have To Relive Your Relationship From The Beginning. Although Painful, These Exercises Will Help You Remember The Good Times And The Bad Times. He Is Just A Man Who Decided With Or Without Your Consent That He Wanted To Move On With His Life. He Is Just A Man - One Man Out Of Millions That Are Dying To Be With You. Just One Man. Remember That. Exercise 1: The Love Jones List 10 Things You Loved About Your Ex: Your Answers: 1) ____________________________________________
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10) __________________________________________ The Breakup Workbook • 3 Our Example Answers:
1) He Was Funny
2) He Owned His Own Company
3) He Had A Lot Of Friends
4) He Owned His Own Home
5) He Liked To Travel
6) He Made Me Laugh
7) He Was A Good Kisser
8) He Drove A Nice Car
9) He Was Outgoing
10) He Liked To Try New Places To Eat Exercise 2: The Future Write Down What You Imagined Your Future Would Be Like With Your Ex. All Of The Dreams, The Hopes, And The
images You Had Of Growing Old With This Person.
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